According to this Guardian article, Marilyn French died yesterday.
Yesterday I was called by a friend at the Guardian, telling me that Marilyn French, author of the feminist classic, The Women’s Room, had died. I was tramping the wet fields of Sussex, looking for a lost dog, worried that the roast I’d slung in the oven was probably burning. It seemed both a peculiarly domestic setting to hear of the death of so important, so radical, a writer – and, at the same time, strangely appropriate.
Later I looked out my old Sphere edition of French’s iconic novel of 1977. Battered and tatty, the silver mirror cover was still easy to find on my crowded bookshelves. The title, in bright yellow capital letters, against a black silhouette of a keyhole; the strap line – This Novel Changes Lives – in a bigger typeface than the author’s name. I thumbed through it with affection, and an odd sadness for the passing of a woman I’d never met. I had memories of smoky autumn afternoons in damp student digs in 1982, spent reading the novel for the first time. It was unlike anything I’d ever read before.
I read The Women’s Room when I was eighteen. It bored me rigid. But all around me, women were being astounded at having their experience named so boldly. The book excavated their anger, polished it, gave them a handhold–a place to grip it and wield as weapon.
For me, though, eh, I was eighteen. I’d never cared about what men think of me. I’d never truckled to the dominant paradigm: I hadn’t had a real job (and the only sexual harrassment I ever got–that is, the only stuff I noticed–was from a woman, which made me blink, then laugh, then tell her to Fuck Off). In other words, the book wasn’t intended for me. But for those it was meant for, wow, it hit hard.
Penguin are rereleasing this novel in August, with a foreword by Dorothy Allison. If you haven’t read it, I recommend that you do. If it’s about you, you’ll weep with relief. If it’s not about you, you’ll learn something–you’ll walk in others’ shoes, understand how it felt to grow up female in the twentieth century. So buy a copy, and drink a toast to the woman who changed so many lives thirty years ago.
For anyone who is interested, the prophets of my generation were Doris Lessing(more my mom’s generation), Simone de Beauvoir, Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinam and Marilyn French. If you’re young, read them like an archaeologist. If you’re my age you remember riding out some terrific storms on the rafts they provided. Thanks, Nicola, for remembering her.
I remember it well… It’s funny, I think Ing (daughter) read it last year.
Feeling mortal and drinking a toast…
Jude
NEWS!
The < HREF="http://www.bangordailynews.com/detail/105355.html" REL="nofollow">equal marriage bill<> has made it to the Maine Governor’s desk today!!
What we’re watching is what Baldacci will do next. He’s a Democratic governor but he remains officially UNDECIDED on whether to pass the bill.
How long can it take him to get decided, for Christ’s sake? He will just have to take the plunge, or it will take the voters and taxpayers of Maine a lot of money and time in the courts to do the right thing anyway.
UPDATE: Same-sex marriage LEGAL in Maine!
Slightly worrying: Opposition has promised to gain the needed 54,000+ signatures needed for a move to a “people’s veto” in referendum.
Wow.
<>barbara<>, yes, different books for different generations.
<>jude<>, hey, good to hear from you.
<>janine<>, excellent! I think the wingnuts are slowly giving up: http://tinyurl.com/chb3g4
Janine,thanks for your good work. As to 54,000 signatures maybe cooler heads will prevail. Even some rightwing republicans are beginning to think that being anti-same sex marriage is costing them votes because people are (1) for it or (2) have stopped caring about it because they are too worried about their pay checks, their houses and their kids’ college tuition.
As to Marilyn French and her eye opening novel, I can only add that a generation of men were also made aware and thus added to the sea change that is still being felt from Maine to Iowa and maybe California.
rhbee, you have a way of saying the right thing, lest we forget. Thanks for that.