Bitch. Cripple. Dyke.*
Only some people can get away with using these words—and only sometimes, and in certain circumstances.
The rules are simple:
If you’ve had such a word hurled at you as a term of abuse, you may then reclaim the word and use it as a self-identifier, or—among other self-indentifiers—as a term of admiration.
Any other circumstances, any, make your use of the term an insult and a fighting word.
Clear? Good.
* There are, of course, many similar words that insult whole classes of people. But in troll country it’s not a good idea to speak on behalf of a group to which one doesn’t belong. You know the words I mean. Out in the real world, when you hear (or see) someone use one, call the user on it. You’ll be making the world a better place.
What brought that on, besides the fact that I couldn't agree more. It's like the Tea Party using the word “Constitution”.
What brought it on? People using careless words in public contexts yesterday, plus an organisation that should know better doing something stupid. (No, no one called me those names directly. They'd be dead; I'd be in jail.)
LOL Nicola.
Well said ;) x
Adam, ha! Thank you.
I can think of one exception, when my friends join us around the table to play dominoes, bitch is often fair game ;)
Alisa, hey, if it works for your group, fair enough. It just doesn't work for me.
Is it bad that I'd like to see a Nicola rant in person? Just once.
Natasha, where are you? Boston? If I get up there to do anything for Hild, I'll try figure something out :)
read this a few minutes after reading your post:
http://omg.yahoo.com/news/neil-patrick-harris-apologizes-saying-tranny-live-004900477.html
Personally I wasn't offended by his remark (although I'm sure there were some people who were), but have to appreciate his apology in any case.
Dianne, yep, it always depends on context.